My Husband is a Workaholic
Mort Fertel Review
As soon as some issues came up in my marriage, I searched online for help. I looked for some sort of program, support group, or counselor that would help us deal with our issues. I came across Mort’s Program and I went it through it with my husband. Click here to read my Mort Fertel Review: http://mort-fertel-review.org
One of the biggest sources of arguments in our marriage is my husband’s work. I have conflicting feelings about it. On the one hand, I really admire and respect his work ethic. On the other hand, Karl’s work schedule has a huge negative impact on our marriage.
Karl’s work ethic was one of the first things that drew me to him. I loved that whenever I was with him he had work calls and he was constantly working late. He seemed so important! But after a while, the novelty wore off and reality set in. His work was taking over and our relationship was on the back burner. OUCH! It hurts to even say it.
How My Husband’s Work Affected Our Marriage
Karl comes home late every night and works on weekends too. For awhile, we argued CONSTANTLY about this. Karl’s work was having a negative impact on our marriage! At first , I would joke about it to friend’s and say, “My husband is a workaholic so I never see him – that’s why we get along so well!” We all had a good laugh but after awhile I realized it was true. We barely spent time together anymore. For starters, I never had a date to parties and events. It may seem trivial but it was so embarrassing to constantly explain my husband’s absence. I felt like they were judging us. But it wasn’t even about them. Overall, I felt neglected. I felt like I wasn’t a priority.
We Learned to Prioritize Each Other
Marriage Fitness with Mort Fertel helped us shift our focus. Through the program, Karl realized how important date night was. (He didn’t realize when I was the one who said it, but coming from Mort it just worked!) We carved out one night in our schedule and we made sure to stick to it. Sometimes we’d be so tired because Karl would get home late but we always have fun once we go out. Click here to read more about our Date Nights. Then, Karl set reminders in his phone to call me. Every day at around 2 PM he calls. Usually it’s a quick “hi”. For example, we’ll share a funny story that happened at work. Then I’ll call Karl while I’m making dinner (it makes him excited to come home!), etc. Nothing too crazy. Just quick check-ins. It just breaks up the day, and makes us feel prioritized! Talk charges have definitely changed our marriage!
A Happy Medium for our Marriage
Karl hasn’t compromised his dedication to work at all. He just added a few things that made his “workalohism” okay with me. Not only am I okay with my husband being a workaholic, I am proud of him now! I don’t feel threatened by his work or his schedule. I don’t feel like “work time” is taking away from “us time” anymore. I am back to respecting his work ethic – because he now shows me that I am a priority too! These are just a few ways that Mort Fertel changed our marriage. My husband being a workaholic is no longer an issue – but something I love about him! P.S. My husband asked me to point out the irony that he has been waiting to go out with me while I finish this post! My, how the tables have turned
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